Since I have stopped being silent about this topic, I have discovered that many more others have suffered from it too. I have also found that many more want to know exactly what is because they think they are victims as well. To make it simple, I outlined what this can and would like like and used it in a format of one week.
The “Silver Bullet” defined in one week
*The week will begin like any other. Monday and Tuesday your spouse might be on a “business trip” and you were perfectly fine to parent and watch the children and do everything for them unsupervised such as wake them up, feed them, take and pick them up from school, make them do their homework, feed them dinner and put them to bed both days. No one views you as anything other than a supportive loving father.
*Wednesday, you might see or hear something that doesn’t feel right after already questioning things in the past. The questions might be about behavior, location, and inconsistencies that are happening and how it is negatively affecting the family when they return from their “business trip”. It doesn’t sit well with them and you get the silent treatment.
*Thursday, you question again because they refused to even answer your questions the night before. maybe you leave to avoid the fighting that ensued or you leave to visit a client a few hours away and will not be back before bed time because this is now the only time you can work with their new schedule they forced on you. In the blink of an eye, your security cameras go off and you see your children being taken or ran off in the night and you don’t know where they are. You can hear the kids crying for dad on the cameras and you feel sick knowing what is to come. Sometimes this is done with assistance of the police so it can be used later in the false narrative to “ensure their safety” even though you are not even at home and the day before they had no issue with you being alone with the kids. Sadly the police have to believe the bs story because they do not know you and “in an abundance of caution”……
*Friday you wake up to the sheriff thump on the door that you will get to know well over the next year or longer and are forcibly removed from your house by police. They tell you that you have 15 minutes to pack up everything that life has given you for 40+ years because you’re accused of “being violent” and served with a restraining order even when you have no history or no accusations of anything over the course of 16 years and not one police call against you ever.
*Saturday and Sunday after not sleeping at all or sleeping in your car, you frantically try to reach anyone to find out where your children are and no one returns your calls. Not one person. You find out later they were told that you tried to “kill them” or “threated to” or some other lie before they left the home with the kids. Clearly it was planned and bags may have even been packed already even if you didn’t notice. Your friends and family believe the silver bullet lie without ever asking you your side of the story because the other party has had months to rehearse the message in their head and maybe even with others and seems very convincible. This is even more “believable” if the one who fires the silver bullet is a “petite pretty woman who is just trying to protect her kids”.
*Monday you spend $10,000 in a retainer to fight these charges and to see your children. You are served again with a protection order for the kids as well and even if you knew where they are, you cant speak to them. You are sick and cannot understand why you are guilty without being proven guilty in a court with a jury. After all, how do you defend yourself in a scenario where you’re guilty until proven innocent and how do you prove that you didn’t do something that you didn’t do. Actual attempted murders have more rights than you at this point. Prepare to spend tens of thousands of dollars to just to see your kids. years later, that may account for hundred of thousands of dollars in attorney fees.
What to expect in the months to come
In most cases, divorce will be filed next. This means another $10,000 retainer to different attorney. Nine times out of ten, a new man moves into your dream home or at the very minimum another family member or friend so that if/when you do beat the injunction, you will not be able to move back into the house because someone else will be warming your old side of the bed. The sick part is that this new man that has been forced on the kids out of the blue, will get to see your children every day while you have to wait weeks or months to get to court to prove that you didn’t do something. Guilty until proven innocent is real in family law. When you do beat the injunction, you can expect to be told (without a court order in place to legally do it) that you can only see your kids under supervision. THEY will unilaterally make this choice and of course will choose the supervisor without any input from you. You can rest assured that they will already be fed the same silver bullet narrative that everyone else has too. The deck cannot be more stacked against you. If you are a victim of this silver bullet control, get ready for war and be ready to defend yourself in ways you should never have to. Remember to always remain calm because anything you say (and tons of stuff that you didn’t) will get used against you!
Closing Thoughts
Domestic violence is real And should be dealt with harshly but the radical liars have caused more bankruptcies and more suicides in men than any other situation in this world. Men are 10 to 20 times more likely to commit suicide after divorce than women. some statistics say that number is twice as high in a silver bullet divorce. There needs to be consequences to those and their attorney who use this sick tactic.
